After the killings of George Floyd, Breonne Taylor, and Ahmaud Aubrey, many of our White friends reached out to us. They were stunned, bewildered, and appalled. They desperately wanted to know what they could do to address systemic racism in the United States.
Many of our White friends also felt hesitant to ask us. They didn’t want to burden us and they were afraid of losing our friendship by saying the wrong things or asking the wrong questions.
It occurred to us that many other White people might be feeling this way and so we got the idea to provide a safe, relaxed, and intimate opportunity for White people to ask whatever questions they desired without risking their friendships.
We also understood that, for leaders of organizations and teams, asking these questions raises a unique set of risks. Leaders face a great deal of scrutiny in their organizations. The pressure to know the right things to say and do can be enormous and asking the “wrong” question or taking the wrong step can result in significant backlash.
We saw a special need for White members of Diversity Committees and Executive Leadership teams to understand how their own anxiety and uncertainty about race can get in the way of their organizations achieving their diversity, equity, and inclusion goals.
We offer a solution to individuals, groups, and leaders who seek to overcome their uncertainty by understanding, on a personal level, what race means to them.
We have created a space that allows for dialogue, growth, and epiphany without the risks that come with asking the wrong question to the wrong person at the wrong time.
Our Just Dinner sessions, hosted via Zoom, are limited to 8 guests and two hosts and they are never recorded. While we might ask you to complete an anonymous survey and we might aggregate information that we believe will be helpful to bringing awareness and resources to wider audiences, we will never reveal the identities of our guests nor directly attribute anything that anyone says without that person’s explicit permission. Confidentiality is at the foundation of our gatherings. Guests are, of course, free to disclose their own participation.
Successfully addressing systemic racism in the United States requires sustained effort. Our dinner invitation is not limited to one evening. Rather, after the first dinner, guests can choose to sign up for our dinner series to continue the conversations and deepen their understanding.
We truly hope that you will accept our invitation to break bread with us as we do our collective part to create a national transformation that allows us to fully realize the great American dream of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness for all.
Come abide here. Come hungry. Leave transformed.